Gone but Not Gone...

"Contrary to popular belief, mothers don't go on in this world after "giving up" a child, enjoying their lives and forgetting the child ever existed. Even though people would love to think this is true, its not the reality of the situation for most of us. Our lives are colored by the tramatic event and we are never the same afterwards. Most of us grieve for years .... Losing a child to adoption in many ways is worse than losing a child to death. With death we have closure to some degree, with adoption we know that we have a child out there in the world somewhere. ... and we know we love them sight unseen." - Jaymie Frederick, first mother, professional searcher and licensed PI